What Can Guys Do with an Unexpected Pregnancy?

When you’re involved in an unexpected pregnancy, the situation can leave you feeling uncertain, unsure of what to do or how to best support your partner. You might be filled with questions and wonder what role you play in the situation or how you can contribute to making sure you both make the best choice for your future.

At Vida Parent Support Services, we understand how tough this time can be. We’re here to help. Here’s what you can do when you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy.

How Do I Fit In?

While the final decision about how to proceed with the pregnancy belongs to your partner, you still play a crucial role in this process. You are a key support system, and how you handle the situation can impact both you and your partner.

Here are ways to help:

• Provide emotional support: Let your partner know you’re there for her, no matter what she decides. A simple affirmation that you’re with her can make all the difference in helping her feel less isolated.
• Help her explore all options: Whether it’s parenting, adoption, or abortion, it’s important to help her gather as much information as possible. You’re giving her one less thing to do when you do the research.
• Be there for her: From helping with doctor’s appointments to ensuring she gets the proper nutrition, being physically present and involved shows her that you’re serious about supporting her throughout this process.
• Give space for her feelings: Allow her the time and space to process her emotions without rushing her to make a choice. Be there to listen, not just to provide solutions.

Handling Disagreements

It’s natural to have differing opinions, especially regarding such a significant life decision. However, you should approach the situation with care. Respecting each other’s feelings and communicating openly can prevent further strain on your relationship and your partner’s mental well-being.

Pressure or coercion can lead to mental health struggles, including feelings of guilt, regret, anxiety, and depression. If you disagree with your partner’s choice, it’s essential to approach the conversation with empathy:

• Gently give your opinion: Share your thoughts without being confrontational. Explain why you feel the way you do, but avoid being pushy or forceful with her.
• Listen to her perspective: It’s just as important to understand her thoughts and feelings. Both of you have valid reasons for what you’re considering, so respecting each other’s viewpoints is crucial.
• Avoid ultimatums: Pressuring her into a decision, no matter your feelings, could add to the emotional weight of an already challenging situation.

A thoughtful approach and continued presence can make a huge impact even if the relationship will not continue. Ultimately, it’s essential to understand that you both are going through an emotional time, but recognize that her challenges are also physically demanding. The best thing you can do is be there when you’re needed.

Get Supported

This is a complicated, emotional time for both of you, and it can feel frustrating. However, you don’t have to face it on your own. Vida Parent Support Services is here to support you both, providing resources, information, and no-cost, confidential services to help you and your partner understand all your options and navigate this challenging time together.

Contact us today for a confidential appointment to explore the paths available. We’re here to help with no pressure and a caring approach.